When you break up with someone, you’re bound to feel lonely. You’re bound to have moments where you can’t stand her guts and claim you never want to see her face again. And there will be other moments where you can’t stop thinking about the good times, the puppy love times, the times when you swore your relationship was going to last a lifetime.
When you start missing her, you’re going to be tempted to shoot her a text just to see how she’s been doing, but that could make you look desperate. That could make it seem like you’re losing the breakup. Like you can’t go on without her and she’s all you ever think about.
If you want your ex-girlfriend back, you’re going to have to go against your gut instincts and follow the no contact rule.
That means no reaching out to her. No answering her texts. No watching her snap stories. No liking her Instagram pictures. No stalking her Twitter. No showing up at her favorite restaurant hoping you’re going to run into her.
For at least thirty days, you are going to forget about her existence. You are going to live your life without her.
How the hell is that going to help you win her back?
It’s not. Your time alone is going to help you grow into a stronger, more independent man who is happy being single — and that will help you win her back.
You’re going to look more desirable if you don’t need her to survive (and you don’t just say it, you mean it).
She isn’t supposed to be your entire world. She isn’t supposed to be the only reason you wake up in the morning.
If you follow the no contact rule, you will have more time for yourself. You will be able to get drunk with the best friends you haven’t seen in months. You will be able to cross things off your to-do list you have been procrastinating. You will be able to follow your passion. You will be able to reorganize your priorities.
Giving yourself space from her will remind you that you had a life before you met her. You are not one half of a couple. You are an individual with your own hopes and dreams and desires.
Your time without him will be a learning experience. It will give you the chance to love yourself. Respect yourself. Care for yourself.
If you follow the no contact rule for thirty days or sixty days or however long it takes you to rediscover yourself, then there is a higher chance she is going to want you back in her world. And if she refuses to get back together with you, that’s okay too, because you will already be okay without her. You will already know how to live without her.
In fact, after taking the time to find yourself, you might not even want her back. You might realize you’re better off without her.
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